Recently, my blogging has reached a much larger audience, and I am beyond excited. My message, that happiness is not that hard if we all just allow ourselves to be human beings first, is really resonating with a lot of people, and I am getting some wonderful feedback.
However, an interesting thing happened after the first article went out. Two friends from entirely different parts of my life, both told me, “Don’t read the comments!”
One had been a blogger on Huffington Post for years, and the other had garnered more than five million YouTube views on his videos. Then other people started saying the same thing – my husband, friends on Facebook – it seems that this is a universally known truth. To protect oneself from the ugliness in the world, one cannot read the comments about your own work.
I understand that position. The Internet can be such an ugly place most of the time, but I guess I’m the exception when it comes to internalizing what people say. I have no problem blowing past 50 “Your a complete moron who should have your computer taken away and probably be shot in the head” comments to get to the one, “Thank you. This really helped me.” One of the latter is worth a thousand of the former to me.
Maybe I’ve gotten enough training ignoring the bile. Remember, I’m the girl who’s made 44 videos and commercials in support of marriage equality, so you can imagine some of the ugliness I’ve seen directed straight at me.
That said, I think it’s a little sad that writers and artists have to protect their souls in this way. Maybe friends could read the comments for them and forward just the happy ones. Or maybe, just maybe, one person will read this post and think twice before writing something hateful.
If the standard for posting comments were: “Is this making the world a better place?” something tells me Internet chatter would go down by 70%. Same is true if everyone had to know the difference between “your” and “you’re” (which my sample poster above clearly didn’t). Then again, that also makes them soooo much easier to ignore.
Tomorrow – an outstanding reblog that you will love.
Later this week – a new HuffPost article about the “future uncertain” tense in the language of Happiness.
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