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Happiness as a Second Language 

Pageflex Persona [document: PRS0000448_00019]Did you grow up in a house where everyone spoke Greek?
If you did, chances are you would naturally know how to speak Greek, and if not, you would need to learn it, step-by-step, one lesson at a time.

So…did you grow up in a house where everyone was happy?
If you did, chances are you would naturally know how to be happy, and if not, you would need to learn it, step-by-step, one lesson at a time.

Happiness as a Second Language teaches happiness the same way you would learn any language that wasn’t spoken in your home. It starts with the most basic concepts of being happy — learning how to say you’re happy and how to count the things that make you happy. The lessons then turn to more complicated techniques — happy days and weeks, happy colors, happy nouns, verbs and adjectives, and ultimately to advanced concepts, including overcoming the negative form and understanding the past, present, future, and “future uncertain” tense.

Check out the Speak Happiness Reader Gallery to see all the people who are making it work, and snap a picture of yourself with the book (or your favorite person, pet, stuffed animal, potted plant, or anything that makes you happy) and send it to me through Facebook or email to get your smiling face up on this page. Can’t wait to see you there!

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Start now, and you will be fluent in Happiness before you know it.



Pageflex Persona [document: PRS0000448_00019]Success as a Second Language

The Ultimate Guidebook for Personal Success 

If you weren’t raised being groomed for success, how would you know how to achieve it now? You would need to learn it step-by-step, like you would any foreign language. That is the purpose of Success as a Second Language: A Guidebook for Defining and Achieving Personal Success

Using this book as your guide, you will learn: 

  • How to discuss your goals and achievements in a way that inspires and engages others
  • How to avoid falling into the “Failure Spiral” while pursuing success
  • How to plan your days, months and years to stay on the Success track
  • The nouns, verbs and adverbs of Success
  • Success in the past, present, future and “past imperfect” tense
  • How to use — and not use — the word, “No” to advance your goals
  • How to work past the setbacks that happen when learning anything new

Success as a Second Language is the first step in your journey towards the success you seek. With time, effort and an unwavering commitment to yourself, you can be fluent in Success, as if it was the language spoken in your home.




How Women can Succeed in the Workplace (Despite Having “Female Brains”) 

Women graduate from colleges, law schools, business schools and film schools at the same rate as men, but ten years later, our participation in the upper ranks of almost all industries is less than 20%, and in some fields, less than 10%. 

How Women Can Succeed in the Workplace (Despite Having “Female Brains”), takes a frank and honest approach to examining what women are doing to hold ourselves back, and how we can compete on a playing field designed by men to reward their achievements. 

Author Valerie Alexander uses relevant studies in evolutionary biology, anthropology and sociology, as well as examples from her life as a securities lawyer, investment banker, Internet executive and screenwriter, to explain the evolution of the “gendered” brain and the corporate structure, showcasing and dissecting areas where women’s natural tendencies prevent us from succeeding in male-designed workplaces. 

How Women Can Succeed in the Workplace tackles a difficult subject with candor, humor and confidence — and two of those traits are actually welcome in the workplace!


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    • speakhappiness

      Thank you! The sad reality is, people speak the language that was spoken to them growing up, and even when they learn a new one, that first language is pretty hard to overcome. Anger is a big one. Fear, Disrespect, Unworthiness…all in the mix. But the upside is that Happiness is easy to practice, and the more native speakers we can create, the easier it will be to learn by immersion.

  • dleonard

    Hi Valerie. Can’t shake the sense of being targeted like those folks in your video – just because I posted those reviews calling my stories horrifying and harrowing. LOL. Or should I say MWAHH-HA-HA. The trick is – I’m actually a pretty happy guy. Love your trailer BTW.

  • Alex Procter Art

    What great concept for a book! It’s so sad that so many people confuse gifting themselves happiness with selfishness – it;’s the complete opposite! *True* happiness ripples positivity through everything you do and changes lives and worlds. It makes people more open minded, more thoughtful and more successful in themselves. Woohoo! Can’t wait to read your book! Will let you know what I think 😉 x

  • Sotirios-Kimon Mouzakis

    You got me at “Did you grow up in a house where everyone spoke Greek?” cause frankly, YES, I did. I haven’t read your book yet, but I loved the stuff I read on huffingtsonpost and am going to order your book just after finishing this comment.
    Keep up the great work 🙂

    • speakhappiness

      This made me laugh out loud! In the book, I say learning Happiness is easier than learning Greek, but I assume you’ll feel differently. Looking forward to hearing what you think.

  • Tosha Brown

    Hello Valerie,

    This is Tosha, “The Twins” you met at the Women in Hollywood seminar you gave on Wednesday 10/16/13 at the LA Film School. Once again your talk was wonderful and it was great meeting you. We finished filming our short film and look forward to you viewing it once it’s completed. I would love to stay in touch so we can continue to network. Hope to hear from you soon.

  • Dorothy

    I have never thought about it like that before. When I have some money, I’ll look into getting this book. I’m very curious. I grew up in a less than happy home.

  • Brian

    Just saw your article on HuffPost advocating banning weddings and baby showers. You got a point. However, weddings will never be banned until the world is free from barbie dolls, Disney, and Cinderella. As a just retired male teacher, I would ask junior high boys if they knew what every girl’s fantasy is. Of course they didn’t know. I said it was to walk down an aisle in a white princess dress and be the total center of attention and worship of a group of people, for at least one day in their lives. Everyone who has had 3rd grade girls come to their door trick-or-treating knows that. So what they want is a prince charming on their arms, not some booger-picking goofball. So, be the prince charming, and you’ll get the girl. Then, I pray and beg my wife please, please, never make me go to another baby shower in my life again. I can’t stand sitting in a circle, balancing a glass plate on my knees, while playing games about animal babies. When presents are opened, you can tell when someone has given the most worthless piece of junk, because everyone goes, “oooOOOOOoooh.” The bigger the noise, the more worthless the gift, to make the receiver feel better. So, yea.

    • Valerie Alexander Post author

      Brian, this whole comment cracks me up! “What they want is a prince charming on their arms, not some booger-picking goofball.” Glad you liked the post.

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